How to Stop Feeling Anxious - 3 Quick Strategies to Try When You are Over Taken by Anxiety

When you’re in the middle of anxiety it can be hard to know what to do to help yourself gain control and to calm the anxiety.  Here are 3 quick strategies to try that may help you when you are feeling anxious.

1. Breath - Take a moment and tune into your breath.  Notice if you are holding your breath or taking shallow breaths.  Breath in for a slow count of 4, filling up your lungs, belly and chest with air.  Hold that breath for a slow count of 6. Slowly release that breath for a slow count of 8.  Don’t worry if you can’t release the breath for that slow count of 8, work up to it. Repeat the process at least 3 times in a row.

2. Ground - In a seated position put your feet on the ground, gently press you feet into the ground, noticing all the areas where your feet and the floor meet.  Take a moment to feel your leg muscles and notice how they contract as you root to the ground. Close your eyes if this helps you to focus. Aim to sit with feet grounded and gently pushing to the floor for 3 minutes.

3. Muscle tension - put your palms together and push your hands together.  Notice your muscles tensing in your arms and chest. Push for 15 - 20 seconds then release.  Repeat at least 3 times.

Choose one strategy to work on this week and practice it at least 5 times a day when you are not feeling anxious.  You don’t have to practice it 5 times in a row, 5 times throughout the day should do the trick. Practicing when you are not anxious will help you to remember to use the skill when you are experiencing anxiety.

If you notice that you are feeling anxious more than normal and are having a hard time working through the anxiety, a therapist may be able to help.  I have seen first hand how therapy has helped my clients to gain some control over their anxiety and to help them start managing their anxiety on a daily basis.  When you're ready, I'm here to help you.  To make an appointment call (619) 383-1900 or go to www.GwendolynNelsonTerry.com to find out more information on how therapy can help you.  

5 Great Things That Happen When You Start Working On Your Anxiety

Change is hard.  Change is especially hard when you don’t feel good, when you are in an anxious state and struggling to focus and to sort out thoughts.  Making any change to feel better can feel overwhelming, that’s why I like to encourage focusing on small changes over time. The idea is that by choosing one small goal or one small change to make, this change can be sustainable.  Once that change is in place, you choose another one to make and over time all of these little changes add up to a big change in how you are feeling. Curious about what some of those changes might be? Stay tuned as I will be sharing some of those in upcoming blog posts.

When things get hard it can be easy to stop working on making changes to improve how you are feeling.  To keep focused on your goal of feeling less anxious I’ve made a list of 5 great things that can happen to you when you start to work on your anxiety.

1. You sleep better - learning sleep hygiene and how to silence those anxious thoughts and worry at bedtime are a big part of what you work on in therapy when you seek help for anxiety.  Many client’s report that once they start sleeping better they experience less anxiety. Client’s report feeling rested, better able to handle stress, better able to meet the demands of their job, improved relationships with their partner and co-workers, and they attribute a lot of those positive changes to sleeping better and learning how to manage their anxious thoughts at night time.

2. You get more done because you can actually focus on what’s in front of you.  People who struggle with anxiety are often thinking about what might happen in the future.  They are consumed with thoughts of “what if I can’t pick the kids up on time”, “what if I get fired”, “I gave Jenny and mean look when we were walking in, what if she says something to me later about it”.  Or they’re living in the past, thinking thoughts like “I’m a bad mom. I can’t believe I snapped at the kids this morning before I left”. These thoughts make it hard to focus on completing the task in front of you, whatever it may be.

3. You start to learn to identify the things that are within your control and you start learning how to let go of the stuff that’s out of your control.  This is another thing you learn in therapy. Your therapist will help you to see how you are worrying about and taking responsibility for things that are either not in your control or are not yours to take responsibility for.  You learn how to catch yourself worrying about those things and you start using coping skills to accept what you can’t control. Overtime you begin to start letting go of things that are not in your control. The other benefit of this skill is that you start to focus your energy on the things you can control.  You start to identify solutions and create plans that actually start to help move you towards your goal of feeling better.

4. You start to take better care of yourself.  You learn skills to cope with anxiety, you start to practice things like yoga and meditation, and you realize that these things actually care for you in more ways than one.  You start to gain real experience with self care and realize that true self care is more than a fancy bubble bath every once in awhile.

5. You spend more time with friends and you enjoy that time because you are present, not worried, and you have given yourself permission to be with your friends.  You stop worrying about the kids being home with their dad, you stop worrying about making lunches and if your partner will make the right lunch for the kids, you stop thinking about what a good mom is and isn’t and you start to become yourself, the woman and mom who is actually perfect just the way she is.

Remember, change doesn’t happen overnight.  It takes consistent effort, practice, and patience with yourself as you learn how to handle your anxiety in new ways.  

If you notice that you are struggling with anxiety or are feeling higher levels of stress than are normal, talk to a therapist.  You can learn to manage anxiety and you can learn skills to help you work through anxiety when it does come up.

If you are struggling with anxiety, I would love to help you.  I am located on the border of Hillcrest and University Heights, down the street from the Sprouts Market and have a couple of openings for new client’s.  Contact me today for a free 15 minute phone consultation or to schedule an appointment. I look forward to talking with you.

Exciting Updates

Things are changing around here!  

I'm sorry I have been a little bad about being consistent with my blogging lately.  Next week I will return to posting regularly on Wednesday mornings.  In the meantime I have been contributing to online blogs, you probably read the one from last week that I posted "Tips for Talking to Your Therapist" and this week I have another great one for you to read.  This article is all about being vulnerable in your relationship, such a hard thing to do!  It's from the Bustle website and features tips from many different therapist's and some comments from yours truly.  Here is a link to the article if you are interested What To Do If You're Having a Hard Time Being Vulnerable In a Relationship also on Bustle 13 Small Changes You Can Make this Weekend to Reduce Your Anxiety.

As for what's new around here, I'm now offering online therapy to clients.  I know how busy life can get, especially for parents and working women trying to have it all.  I respect that you have a hustle and need to get shit done.  The great thing about online therapy is the flexibility it allows with scheduling.  Lunch hour sessions, no problem.  Sessions before you go to work, girl, I'm an early riser and can get online for a 7 am session if that works for you.  I also reserve a limited number of evening spots for my online peeps.  Send me an email if you want to schedule a session and try it out - Gwendolyn@GwendolynNelsonTerry.com

The other thing that's new around here is that I now accept Cigna health insurance and I hope to be able to start taking MHN and Tricare insurance soon.  Check back for updates if you are wanting to use your MHN or Tricare insurance.

By the way - Most Cigna plans will cover online therapy sessions.

That's it for me today.  I hope you all are having a wonderful week and I hope everyone has an amazing weekend.  Next week, blogs will start being posted on Wednesday mornings again.

Interested in giving online therapy a try or ready to schedule a session to meet in my office?  Call today to schedule your session and get started on the path to feeling better (619)383-1900.

Tips for Talking to your Therapist

This week I am posting a link to a blog I was featured in on Thriveworks.  The blog normalizes some of the discomfort of starting therapy, sharing your story, and opening up to your therapist.  Towards the end of the blog are some tips I provide on how to prepare for your session and how to open up to your therapist.  I hope you find the information useful.

Here is a link to the blog http://thriveworks.com/blog/tips-open-honest-counselor/

If you have any questions or are curious about the therapy process, feel free to send me an email.  I love hearing from readers.  

Are you ready to start making some changes in your life?  Are you ready to start working on your happiness?  If so, I am opening a few extra slots to take on some new clients.  Call 619-383-1900 to schedule your session today or go to www.GwendolynNelsonTerry.com to find out more information about how therapy might be able to help you.

3 Signs you might be an anxious mom

As moms we are prone to worrying about our babies, that’s part of the job.  Are they doing well in school? Are they happy? Do they have friends? Are they being safe when the go out?  Worrying about your child is normal but there is a point where the worrying can become too much.

So how do you know when you’ve crossed the line from normal, everyday mom worry to being an anxious mom?  Here are 3 signs that you might be a mom who has anxiety.

1. You worry an abnormal amount about your own death and who will take care of your children if/when you die.  Granted we can’t control what happens to us and if we are going to die but if you find yourself overly fixated on it, convinced that at some point you are going to orphan your children, this might be a sign of anxiety.

2. You won’t let anyone, not even your partner, help with the kids.  This can be anything from helping to make the school lunches, picking the kids up after school, buying the new soccer cleats, teaching them to drive.  Letting someone else helps means that you won’t get to oversee it and make sure whatever it is, isn’t done properly. If things are not done “right” then the question comes up for you “What does this mean for my child?”, “Am I a bad parent?”, “Are people going to think I’m a bad mom?”  

3. Saying goodbye is more distressing for you then it is for your child.  No matter what age they are, you worry when they leave the house or when you drop them off at school.  You struggle with scary thoughts or images about their safety and you call the cell phone or text them frequently to check in on them.

If any of this sounds familiar, you may be an anxious mom.  

To find out more about therapy and to learn more about how therapy may help you with anxiety, check my therapy page for moms or my FAQ page.

Being a parent does mean that you have to struggle with anxiety and worry.  When you are ready, call me at (619) 383-1900 to schedule your appointment.

What is Self Care?

Often, by the time a mom comes into my office they are burnt out.  They say things like “I don’t know what’s wrong with me” as they sob on the couch and describe to me a feeling of being deeply tired, stressed, overworked, and feeling like a failure in every area of their life.

It’s not that these women don’t love being moms.  In fact the extreme opposite is often the case. They love being a mom so much, they forget about everything else in their life, and one day they wake up and they have nothing left to give.  It’s at this point, where they feel they have nothing left to give, that they wander into my office.

I work with women to help them to start taking care of themselves in a way that still allows them to take care of their families.  The word self care gets thrown around a lot and is usually coupled with bubble baths, wine, and scented candles but that kind of self care is not realistic for the busy mom so I work with my client’s on simplifying self care.  Self care simplified means making sure the basics are covered. Am I well rested? Am I hydrated? Am I hungry? Self care is asking yourself “What do I need right now?” Sometimes the answer will be “A bubble bath, some wine, and to light one of my nice scented candles”.  Sometimes the answer will be surprisingly simple, like, “I need to go to the bathroom” or “I need to drink some water”.

You see, when you’re a busy mom you are so trained to tune into what’s going on with your family that sometimes you forget to tune into what’s going on with you.

Your assignment this week, if you choose to accept it, is to set a reminder on your phone.  When the reminder goes off, I want you to take a moment to breathe in deep 2-3 times and to ask yourself “what do I need right now”.  Whatever comes up is OK. You don’t have to act on whatever comes up for you, you don’t have to do anything. Step one is to just acknowledge what your need is.

Want more individualized support?  I have a couple of openings in my San Diego practice right now.  To schedule an appointment call (619) 383-1900.

Drinking to cope with motherhood

I often work with women who are struggling with how to manage the stress that comes with being a mom, partner, employee, friend and much more.  Today women juggle more responsibilities and have more stress than any other generation before them. They feel pressure to be the perfect parent, bring in an income that allows for a nice house and to pay for their kids soccer and ballet lessons.  When at work they feel pressure to be home, when home they feel pressure to be the fun and sexy wife, when with their children they are worried about work. It feels that life is always moving, they are never where they “should” be, they are never doing enough and never feeling successful.  With all of this pressure it can be easy to turn to drinking as one tool to shut down the constant pressure that many women are feeling today.

It is possible for people to have a healthy relationship with alcohol and you might just be one of those people.  But for some women, drinking is becoming a normal tool to manage the stress that often comes along with raising children and trying to have a happy marriage.  Below is a short checklist of signs that you may be relying on drinking in order to manage stress.

__You drink more or for longer periods than you intended to.

__You have tried to stop drinking before but couldn’t.

__Drinking is starting to interfere with taking care of your family.

__Drinking more to get the desired effect (decreased stress, feeling relaxed, etc)

These are just a couple of signs that drinking may be becoming a problem.  

If you think you may be drinking to much try and stop for a week, see what happens and how you feel about your alcohol intake.  Notice what comes up for you during that week, was it hard? Easy? Did you enjoy more time with your kids or notice less arguing with your husband?  Or maybe you fought more with your husband and were on edge with the kids all week.

If you noticed that it was hard to give up drinking, therapy may be able to help.  Depending on your needs therapy may be able to help you manage your stress, decrease anxiety and depression, improve your relationship with your partner, family and friends, and to decrease your alcohol use.  

I would love to help you on your path towards feeling better.  To schedule an appointment call (619) 383-1900 or email gwendolyn@gwendolynnelsonterry.com

Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry is a licensed marriage and family therapist located in the Hillcrest neighborhood of San Diego, CA.

Mom Guilt

In response to my last blog on date night I got a few mom’s who shared with me that they don’t do date night because they are struggling to leave their babies and children at home.  The word that came up in many of the emails was “guilt”. Many mom’s expressed guilt for taking time away from their children to take care of their relationship. So what do you do if you want to go on a date night, know it’s important to spend time with your partner, but just can’t get past the mom guilt?

First of all I want you to know that mom guilt is normal.  If you didn’t feel guilty about date night, you would feel guilty about something else.  Society has sent the message to women for many years that in order for us to be a “good mom” we need to devote our entire life to our children and anything less than that means we’re a bad mom.  The truth is that in order to be a good mom you need to take care of yourself so that you can take care of your babies. A burnt out, screaming, tired mom is not a good mom, although we all get there some times.  To be a good mom you need to be a complete person that nurtures and cares for yourself physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally.

Now I’m going to be very honest with you.  There is no easy way to get through mom guilt.  Like I said if you didn’t feel guilty about date night, you’d feel guilty about something else.  

Steps to start shedding the mom guilt:

First, talk to your partner.  Let them know how you are feeling and tell them you’d love to spend some alone time with them.  Prepare your partner for the likelihood that you might be struggling with guilt that night and ask them to be understanding if you find you have moments where you are not totally present in the evening.  Your partner may surprise you and have a few suggestions to help you get through this feeling of guilt.

Next I want you to go on a date night or just get out of the house together, no kids.  Keep doing this weekly. Over time the guilt will become less and less intense and you will start to enjoy and look forward to your time out together.  

During the time out, away from the kids notice when the mom guilt comes up.  Acknowledge it and then challenge the thought that is coming up for you. For example if your self talk is saying “you’re a bad mom.  I can’t believe you left the baby!”, list all the ways you are a good mom. Think back to all the times you got up in the middle of the night to hold your baby as they went back to sleep, the thoughtfulness you put into feeding them dinner, the times you take them to the park or the play group, all the times you changed the diaper, fed them, kissed, them told them you loved them.  Whatever the thought, your job is to take a moment and challenge it. If you’re having a hard time with this in the moment, ask your partner for help.

Next, say a calming statement to yourself like “I’m a good mom and it’s ok to spend time with my partner” or “I’m having fun with my partner and this time out with them will make us better parents”.  Say this over and over to yourself until you notice that you are able to focus more on the date.

Repeat the steps as much as needed.

Here’s a little cheat sheet of the steps to help you remember what to do.

• Talk to your partner.  Let them know you are struggling with mom guilt.  Let them know you don’t expect them to fix your feelings and let them know the ways they can help.  

• Get out of the house without the kids.  Go for a walk, out to dinner, to a movie, or something else.  Just start doing it.

• Notice the mom guilt when it comes up.

• Name it, acknowledge it: “Hey there mom guilt.  I see you”.

• Challenge it:  “Am I really a bad mom?  I make my babies lunches every day, I drive them to dance class, I do arts and crafts with them.”  Start listing all the unique and awesome ways that you are a great mom.

• Reaffirm, choose a statement to say to yourself to help calm your thoughts:  “I’m a great mom and going out with my partner is a good thing for my kids”.

• Ask your partner for help when you need it.

• Plan to go out the following week or aim to go out twice a month.

Need some extra support with mom guilt?  I'd love to meet with you to discuss how therapy might be able to help.  Email me with any questions or to schedule an appointment:  Gwendolyn@GwendolynNelsonTerry.com

Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry is a Marriage and Family Therapist located in the Hillcrest neighborhood of San Diego.

5 Links for Date Night Ideas

Date nights are one of the most fun ways I know of to help keep a relationship strong.  If it’s been awhile since you’ve had date night, this might spark some ideas for you and get you motivated to book the sitter so that you and your partner can remember what it feels like to spend some quality time alone.

I love this date night idea and with a little bit of pre-planning it’s a fun and inexpensive day out.

https://www.thedatingdivas.com/library-date-night-idea/

Not into the library idea?  Check out the list of date ideas on the Dating Divas website, they have a ton of great ideas for date nights.

https://www.thedatingdivas.com/tag/date-ideas/

Locals only.  Here is a list of fun date night ideas in San Diego.  On my list of things to try with my husband include the make your own chocolate date night. https://www.thrillist.com/entertainment/san-diego/best-san-diego-date-ideas

Can’t get a sitter or date night not in your budget?  No worries. Here is a list of at home date nights. https://www.artofmanliness.com/2016/02/10/18-at-home-date-ideas/

If you’re not a planner and need some ideas that are simpler to pull off then this is your list.  Here are 6 super simple at home date night ideas. http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/relationships/advice/g1598/indoor-date-night-ideas/

Hopefully you found at least one idea on these lists that you’re excited to try.  Your next step is to pick a date and let your partner know to block that time off on their calendar just for you. 

Have fun! 

I'd love to hear from you.  Email me if you have any questions or comments at gwendolyn@gwendolynnelsonterry.com or give me a call at (619) 383-1900.

Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry is a Marriage and Family Therapist located in the Hillcrest neighborhood of San Diego.

2 Online Resources for Self Care

Need a moment to yourself or a way to unwind?  Here are 2 of my favorite online resources that have helped me to fit in a little bit of self care when life is feeling a little crazy.

1. Yoga with Adriene -  I am a huge YWA fan and Find What Feels Good (FWFG) fan.  Adriene runs a subscription based website called Find What Feels Good and for $9.99 a month you get access to all her videos.  Before you sign up for the subscription service be sure to check out her Youtube channel where she releases one free yoga video a week.  If you are someone who has tried yoga in the past and have been unable to get beyond the sometimes pretentious vibe of yoga then check out Adriene.  Adriene has a down to earth style, great sense of humor and is body inclusive and affirming.  Here's a like to the YWA Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/yogawithadriene and a link to her subscription based website:  https://yogawithadriene.vhx.tv/

2. Breathe with Calm - Feeling a little keyed up and anxious?  Just got some bad news and want to scream and cry but you got to go pick up the kids (Hey, no judgement, I’ve been there), take a moment and breathe.  Breathe with Calm is a website that guides you through a breathing exercise with written instructions and a visual.  https://www.calm.com/breathe

If you have 30 minutes this week, log onto the Yoga with Adriene Youtube channel and give one of her sessions a try.  If you find yourself short on time or having periods of high anxiety and stress this week, give the Calm website a try.

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Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist located in the Hillcrest neighborhood of San Diego.

Happy Valentine's Day Moms

Valentine's Day as a mom often means taking the kids to buy Valentine's, struggling to get the kids to complete the Valentines while simultaneously making cookies for the class party.  The aftermath is often a messy kitchen, a table covered in glue and glitter and a tired mom who has to clean it all up. This year, Valentine’s Day is on a weekend which means you’ve already done the hard part, you’ve taken care of your Valentine’s Day obligations as a mom.  Now I want you to turn the focus to yourself.  

This Valentine’s Day I want you to carve out some time for taking care of you. Take a moment and ask yourself what do you really need?  What is your body, mind, and being craving?  Maybe you want some alone time with your partner.  Maybe you need some sleep.  Maybe you need some relaxation. Below are some ideas of ways to take care of yourself this Valentine’s Day.

• Bubble Bath
• Massage - Maybe take turns with your partner, giving and receiving massages
• Alone Time - Ask your partner to take the kids out of the house for a few hours
• Sleep
• Manicure/Pedicure - Summer is on its way, time to get those feet sandal ready
• Chocolate - Don’t go cheap on yourself, treat yourself to your favorite chocolate or dessert
• Make a Valentine For Yourself - You are an awesome mom, write it down and appreciate your own strengths and efforts as a mom
• Buy Yourself Flowers and Make an Incredible Arrangement

If you are feeling guilty about taking time for yourself you can strike a deal with your partner to reciprocate and provide him with a chance to spend some time doing what he loves.

After the Baby: Getting Your Relationship Back on Track

Even the best of couples can feel off in their relationship after a baby arrives.  Exhaustion has set in, routines have changed, and you are in the midst of renegotiating household responsibilities.  As the kids get older it can continue to feel as if you and your partner are no longer spending time together, connecting, taking time to be a couple.  

John Gottman is a researcher who has studied couples and is considered a leading resource for couples therapists.  One tool that Gottman suggests to get a couple back on track is the use of a Love Map.  A Love Map, simply put, is a way to get to know the small things in your husband or wife’s life.  Asking questions such as “who do you like to go to lunch with at work?” and “what do you worry about?” can help to build a better understanding of your partners world.

You may think you know the answers to many of these questions and perhaps you do but I’m guessing some of the answers have changed over time.  Just as our world is constantly evolving - think back to when you had your baby and the changes you experienced with your friendship circle, thoughts and way of feeling.  Heck, even how you experienced going to the grocery store changed.  It might be surprising to learn that our partners also underwent a change too.  Even if your kids are grown and gone or you are just starting a new relationship, asking questions about your partner is a great way to build what Gottman refers to as a “solid foundation” for your relationship.

This week I encourage you to ask questions about your partner's life, likes and dislikes.  Learn what is currently making them tick, take an interest in their work, ask questions, ask about their experiences during the day.

You can start building a Love Map by asking your partner questions such as “What’s my favorite place to eat lunch?” or ask your partner questions like “Where do you like to go out for lunch when you’re at work?”  Here are some additional questions to get you started on building your Love Map.

If you could take a vacation anywhere, where would you go?

What is your favorite vacation we took and why?

What’s your favorite restaurant?

What’s your most embarrassing moment?

What’s the best book you’ve read in the past year?

What is your proudest moment?

As your partner shares listen without judgement, ask questions, be curious and have fun.

Below in the comments add a question that you think might be good for a Love Map.

Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist located in Santa Barbara

Morning Routines

Last time we talked about building self care into your nightly routine.  How’d it go for you?  Were you able to add one act of self care into your evening? In the comments section below let us know how it went.  

This week I thought we’d focus on morning routines.  Morning routines can look a little less sexy than evening routines.  Having kids often means we wake up and are in go mode until the kids get to school.  Finding shoes, finishing homework, making sure everyone has their lunch, ate breakfast, and is clear on who goes to what activity after school can be a bit of a juggling act.  

So what can you do to make mornings a little less daunting?   

Plan ahead.  Lunches can be made the evening before or you can even make lunches on Sunday to last the whole week.  Struggling to get the lunches made; get the kids to help or set your child up for school lunches.  No need to feel guilt or shame, school lunches may have improved since you were a kid AND your child having hot lunch is not a statement of the kind of mom you are.  If taking the chore of making lunch off your list allows you to spend more stress free time with your children then go for it.  Positive time spent with your child will have a greater impact on their happiness and well being than compared to packing a nutritionally sound lunch.

Plan ahead.  Create a chart, tack up some poster board, get a white board and write out the after school plans and activities for the week.  This will help you to remember who goes where and when, give your children some accountability and responsibility, and help your partner to feel more connected and part of the activity.  Who knows, your partner may even see something on the schedule and offer to help out.  

Got a needy love bug in the morning?  Take a moment to check in with your child.  Sometimes nighttime can feel lonely and it can be a challenge for young children to get through the night.  Checking in with little ones and giving a morning snuggle can help to set the right mood and tone for the morning.

Get up earlier.  You’re probably thinking I’m crazy for even suggesting this but if you get up at least 10 minutes earlier you are giving yourself a cushion to deal with problems that may come up such as lost shoes.  If you are feeling really ambitious you can get up 30-45 minutes early and squeeze in some quiet time for yourself.  Taking 15 minutes to drink a cup of coffee before you wake up your family can make a world of difference in your day.

Set an intention for the day before you get out of bed.  Think of what you want to focus on, what’s really important.  Maybe choose one or two feeling words that you want to guide you through the day such as calm and accomplished.  When stressful situations come up or when you find yourself feeling worn out you can go back to the intention you set for the day and make decisions focused on how you want to feel and be.  

Making small changes daily can make a huge impact over time.  Think about one thing you might like to change about your morning routine.  Maybe it's fitting in 10 minutes for yourself before the kids get up or maybe it's packing lunches before bed.  Allow for the fact that change is not immediate and takes practice and patience.  If you fail at implementing one of the strategies listed above or it doesn’t have the impact you hoped for, no worries.  There's always tomorrow to try something new.

Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry, LMFT

Santa Barbara, CA