In my work as a marriage and family therapist I’ve found that there are 3 distinct types of conflict attitudes. There is the conflict comfortable (aka conflict neutral), conflict avoidant, and people who seem to seek out and relish conflict.
Read moreAttachment Styles - Why Yours May Be Causing Conflict In Your Relationship
You and your partner have a pattern, it may look like this: You are feeling restless, you think it’s because of your relationship. You start to wonder what is wrong in your relationship. You question if your partner is cheating on you, if they’ve fallen out of love with you, if they are no longer interested in you sexually. You start to question if you’ve gained weight, if you are boring.
Read moreIs it ever OK to comment on someone's weight?
A client recently asked me “is it ever OK to talk to someone about their weight?”. We had been discussing her feelings around her body and the messages that she received as a kid growing up. This client was in the process of trying to understand how her parents apparent concern for her health had set her up for a lifetime of believing that her body was wrong. If she couldn’t receive this message from her parents, could she receive it from anyone else?
Read moreWhat Feelings Am I Having?
Before you can address an uncomfortable feeling you need to first be able to label the feeling that you are having. Our bodies and our brains communicate our feelings to us in many ways.
Read moreFeelings: Good or Bad?
You may have noticed throughout my blog and website that I refer to feelings as uncomfortable and comfortable. That’s because
Read more3 Ways Therapy Can Help Your Relationship
Each couple brings in a unique set of challenges and experiences that dictate their needs in couples therapy. Your therapist can discuss with you what your needs are and can help you and your partner create goals for couples therapy. Along with those goals that you create with your therapist there are some benefits that just go along with doing couples therapy.
Read moreWhy can't I just talk to my friend? Why go to a therapist?
Great question! Talking to a friend, sister, or partner sometimes is enough. But sometimes it just doesn’t cut it. When things are really challenging and the struggle has been going on for a long time, leaning on friends and
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